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Thursday, July 24, 2014

Communications - Catch 22!

Didn't know that I was such a dumb ass that I wasted an hour of my lunch time to tango with my boss on office communication. Well the squawk is that too much emails, people also get offended, not kept in the loop people also get unhappy and when you wanna talk to them face-to-face - people is either no time for you or out of office.

So is it a case where when people needs something from you, it's okay for them to send chaser emails to you or even suddenly be nice to you but if it's the other way round then the "Please Do Not Disturb"sign will be super obvious lor. :)



I'm not a fan of emails and whenever I can, I prefer to talk to people either over the phone or face to face unless you have a bloody pukeable face lah. But I have to agree with my boss that emails biggest advantage is efficiency but its biggest disadvantage is that it lacks feelings or emotions. My point of writing emails is simply for efficiency as we have so much to do daily and I try to be as simple and short as possible and if you need clarifications, you can always approach or ring me. So yeah it's true my emails may not have the emotional droppings here and there like my blog posts lah, whahahaha. But it gets the job of delivering the salient points of the message across mah, right?

I guess perhaps people who often gets offended with emails are simply cause they get too much work requests and get stress about it. Perhaps, you should look at how to manage your life and take it easy rather then getting emails to stress you out and let emails manage your life. Of course with technology of smartphones blah blah blah, it can gets harder but then there is always the "Sleep" mode or switch off button.

At the end of the day, I may sound arrogant to my boss but we are all paid to do the job and friends at the office can be a fringe benefit but not necessary something that I would want to enjoy. Besides professionalism is so passé these days, given the among of KPIs that we have to deliver and meet, so if you can't take the heat then you shouldn't be where you are bitching about it. You wanna save your ass then so do I.

Well the joke that I shared with my boss about this discussion about some of the folks mentioned was that if they don't want so many emails then they don't be some bloody "kaypoh"and asked to be kept in to the loop for everything under the sun lah. "Kiang tio ho, mai ke kiang mah", meaning smart can already, don't try to act smart! Guess people most of the time never learn until they reach the point of a big regret.

At this point, it reminded me of an article that I read sometime back that the most successful people don't read their emails first thing in the morning once they get out bed. Think only the successful wannabes are the ones who think they are when they do that.

So you wanna talk to someone then be careful who you are talking to and what you are talking about and worst if it's an email. So caveat emptor everyone, be happy and don't lose sleep or hair over it lah. :) 

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

It's THAT Month Again!


Time has comes round again for that dreadful anniversary that I and quite a few others rather forget but the fact remains that it will always be there for us no matter how we wanna deal with it. So I just have to stay positive and hope for the best.



Fortunately despite the unpleasantness that July brings, there is still the big joyous occasion of kiddo's birthday today. Took leave today together with wifey and kiddo called the shots since morning with a hearty breaky with my mum and dad before sending his off for his wushu CCA and then it's me and wifey's pak toh time at our fav kway chap stall at Dunman Hawker Centre. Well thought I could spent some quiet time back home but wifey got called back to work and so it's me and housework time. Bummer....

Well at least I managed to keep myself busy from checking work emails, ha! It has been a busy week with at least 3 offsite presentations and even when I'm in office, it's back to back meetings cause I have to roll out 5 major projects by the end of the year and I have yet to get my new Exec. Nonetheless most of the projects are going smoothly and staying out of the way of the other nasty colleagues. Actually they aren't nasty to begin with but I guess they are just strong characters that always expect others to see things their way or understand them more.

In life whether at work or at among your acquaintances, there is always such people. Such people will always say that you are emo, not religious, stubborn, impatient, stressed up, yada yada, etc etc. but the fact remains such viewpoints and feelings are very personal. For e.g, I feel very strongly about bad driving cause I'm very passionate about road safety and driving skills, so I personally take offence when others tell me that why I'm so bothered by it, why it always happens to you or is it your driving style? The fact remains that I shared the story with you cause I believe you can appreciate what I have to share and what I'm dealing with but for you to criticise me for something I know best, this is ridiculous . Sorry I ain't one that shut my mouth for anyone's benefit cause if I see some injustice or I have an opinion I speak my mind. I'm not calling myself a SME (subject matter expert) on some of these things but do feel free to convince me not criticise, please. Everyone is entitled to one's opinion. Perhaps, politically in Singapore, most of us who have an opinion about things are being shut out by many others who only know how to criticise as they felt that is the societal norm. Well perhaps it's gonna be another time for a greater awakening in the next election??

Life is short and for someone like me that has gotten a 2nd chance I ain't gonna remain suppressed just because I care more about other people's thinking than my own. It's not just my right but also my entitlement to be myself and speak my mind. So if one don't like it then walk away and have no part to be in my life, I would respect you for that rather than be a hypocrite in front of me and yet turn around and speak ill of me behind my back to others. Frankly, what goes around comes around. The world is just too short of listeners cause everyone wants to talk.


So to those who can't stand me then please walk away as I would be thankful to you.  For those that stood by me and hear me out, you definitely is a keeper. Well food for thought indeed as we are all in the driver seat of our live. Okay, that it for this post and now the washing machine beckons and getting ready soon for kiddo's birthday dinner later. Cheers!

Friday, July 18, 2014

It's Been So Long, Gosh!

It's been a long time of 2 years already? Oh my time flies and I'm truly guilty of slacking on my blogging here. Well it was a coincidence that my new colleagues chided me this week that I should start a blog writing about the food places that I adore since there seems to be quite a few. My reply to them that I do have a blog got me thinking and here I am.
Some quick updates are that it's been 3 and a half years since I was reborned and so far I have been trying to live my life to its fullest with quite a success. I ain't richer than before but I'm certainly happier and I ditch the first job that got me started in the VWO sector. I'm grateful for what it has taught me and the relationships that I needed to forego. What's remains is an exciting new job of helping children with Down syndrome and a working environment that appreciates me more. Kiddo is now in P2, he is still very much a mama boy still but that's what it is I suppose in a single parent family. After gotten his PC in golf, he is now concentrating in swimming and wushu. Still hoping for No. 2. Haha.

Youngest bro is now a dad and his boy is gonna grow up like a fine young man and now time for 2nd bro to play catch up eh. Well for me I just hope they come round for meals more often as dad and mum is getting older and dad is also more eccentric nowadays. Overall I do enjoy more home cooked meals given mum comes up to cook daily.

Medically I can't say I'm all clear and back in the pink of health but I'm much better although putting on more weight despite exercising on weekends. Checkups are now further apart which everyone are happy about.

As for my CCAs, I gave up teaching driving which I'm truly sad about and now thinking should I give up my property agent licence too. Hmmm... Overall I now have more time for my family given Sats is my off day too.

Well time it's for me to go now. I hope I will come back soon and share more stuff about living as a common 40 year old in Singapore and of cause my fav topic - FOOD! So until next, take care, Ciao!